To live by choice and not by chance
To make changes and not excuses
To be motivated and not manipulated
To be useful and not used
To excel and not compete
To listen to my inner voice, and not the random opinions of others.
less pure after you’ve touched her
maybe you should take a look at your hands
50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
Ok cool lets just do what we fucking want then shall we
the worst thing about tumblr is that you read all those pro feminist/anti rape/anti misogyny posts all the time everyday and then you actually go outside and talk to a random guy and it feels like being punched in the face with a chair
im such an asshole but im also a v kind-hearted person who likes making ppl happy and if i love u i will love u with all my heart and all my soul but then im also such an asshole
you ever wanna fuck the living shit outta somebody but also cook for them and make sure they’re emotionally stable?
Going to see jake and amir in September!!!!!!! Need a holiday tho u.u
i’m basically “pro-do whatever you want as long as you’re enjoying yourself and not hurting other people”
Literally, ignore them.
Don’t invite any parts of them into your space.
If you command me to do something that I was already planning on doing the chances of me doing that thing automatically drop to zero